Yes, you may
Last week, I mended a pair of my daughter’s pants. I was reflecting on the how the beginning of every big hole starts with a single broken thread. Left unattended, it unravels slowly and requires patching up.
When we wait until we unravel, it takes so much more to restore us. When we care for our needs, it takes so much less than we expect. Micro-dosing happiness says it all. Tiny gifts we offer ourselves to leave us empowered to experience life as we would like it.
This year, don’t just hope to feel better. Plan for it. Put it in your schedule. Carve out the time on your calendar that reminds you, this is valuable. I am valuable. When it shows up in our planner as a non-negotiable, we give ourselves permission.
Permission.
It’s actually the foundation for progress. Without it we feel like life is a push and pull.
I sit on the couch. Then moments later, I feel guilt tugging at me. “There’s so much to do.”
I sit down with my child to color. Minutes into it, I hear myself going through the list of unfinished business.
I value my health and my family. But, I don’t always give myself the permission to enjoy them. And joy is also a value. They become a list of tasks: laundry, meals, chauffeuring…My life becomes something I manage more than it becomes something I enjoy.
This leads us down the path of stress, frustration, irritation, overwhelm, and underwhelm.
Hopefully, January has you feeling full and ready. Hopefully you have a vision of what you want for yourself this year. Because whatever you want, just needs you to feel good.
When we feel good, we have access to the best parts of ourselves.
When we feel good, we are available for others.
When we feel good, we spread good with ease.
Feel good = Do good
You are worth it my friend. I invite you to take one step today.
Pick a goal.
Break it down into a single actionable step.
Put it in your calendar.
Do it.
Tell yourself, Yes, you may.
Here’s the trick to consistency. Don’t start where you want to end up. Start where you are. It’s a staircase model instead of a high/low bar concept. Your first step might look different than mine. Is it:
1 minute of climbing the stairs in your house?
2 minutes with your favorite book?
5 minutes in the morning of quiet with your coffee before you get ready?
No judgement. Meet yourself where you are and climb step-by-step towards your desires. Consistency builds trust that creates new beliefs.
I am someone who takes care of myself.
I am someone who follows through.
I am someone who feels good.
You get to decide the life you want to experience.
Stay high-vibe my friends! Sending all my love and gratitude xx
