Time

The only thing we can do with time is spend it. It is our most precious resource. It makes sense then that we assign value to things (and create our to-do lists) based on perceived value. 

We all put things off. Because somehow, we know that there’s always a tomorrow. Except…that we don’t know that. 

People often say they feel robbed of time when, what we really do, is freely hand it out. We give it to our bosses, our clients, our families, our communities, our children, and even our acquaintances. We even waste time on others’ perceptions of us. If I choose this, someone will think I’m…lazy/not a good spouse/not pulling my weight/no fun/a bad mother/a mean person/full of myself… 

So where does this generosity go when we refocus it? Why does giving a little time to ourselves feel like such a guilty pleasure? With no one to validate our choice, we must find the value within. We need to intrinsically understand how time well spent refuels us. It’s what allows us to keep on giving, and not just that, but giving our best. 

What we need is a mindset shift. I’m here to remind you that investing in yourself is a selfless act, not a selfish one. 

Yes, you will reap the rewards of the work but so does everyone else. Professionally it’s not selfish to be the best. In fact, we often search these people out. Going to the best doctors, finding top-notch artisans, and all varieties of experts - all people honing their craft so that they may better serve others. So why don’t we believe that being the best version of ourselves is any different? 

Let’s say that we value healing over numbing. Acceptance over ignorance. Enduring some hurt now to have more joy in the long-run. Now, taking time for self-care and self-reflection are tools to enhance everything you do and everyone you touch.