Guilty as charged

Guilt. It’s a doozie.

This past week I had the privilege of supporting and listening to a lot of women. And the common theme was guilt.

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Guilt over how we mother.

• Guilt around how we show up in our marriage.

• Career guilt - both ways. Guilty to go to work, guilty to stay home.

• Guilt for taking time for ourselves.

You can’t win with guilt. Unless you lose. And that’s no way to thrive.

I’ve lived that way.

• Making decisions so others feel more comfortable.

• Sacrificing my needs so I can meet someone else’s.

• Staying quiet so someone else can speak up.

Let me ask you something. Do you believe this? If I’m not giving, I’m taking.

Let’s bust that myth clear out of the water. Your needs have a place in your life.

So the next time you feel guilt, I invite you to question it.

Guilt does have a purpose. It keeps us connected to others. When it’s healthy, it keeps us in service to others, creating strong bonds. When it’s overused, it keeps us in servitude to others. We can never do “enough” to divert resources towards ourselves. We can only be enough when we don’t matter.

Not any more.

The High Vibe Habits are designed to help shift the beliefs that determine whether you prioritize yourself. We don’t change what we do until we change how we think. It’s why we know what we “should” be doing but still don’t do it.

Time, money, and energy. We don’t actually reallocate these resources until we believe we’re worth it.

My advice? Don’t believe everything YOU tell yourself (especially that first thought!!). Next time guilt rears it’s head, ask yourself:

• What do I actually feel guilty about?

• Is it true/necessary?

• What do I think is enough in this role/situation?

• What could be a positive effect of me saying ‘yes’ to what I’m feeling guilty about?

I know it’s uncomfortable to change the way you show up. But it’s worth it. You’re not alone. Get the support you need to transform how you feel. I’m just an email away.

Sending all my love and gratitude. xx