When a hug became hard

Several years ago, my husband was in an accident. I approached helping him heal with the same energy I approach everything in life. I went all in.

I researched and brewed fresh herb teas, cooked nourishing meals, and cared for his needs while not letting anything else slip (kids, school, cleaning, chauffeuring). I refused to do anything less while adding more and more onto my plate.

I was playing into my strength: hard-working. But the solution of just "work harder" had me feeling so low.

I felt bad - as in my body was exhausted from all the to-dos. I was mentally tired from the worry. And it led me to a level of depletion where offering my husband a hug or being emotionally available felt impossible.

And that dropped me into a cycle of regret. I love my husband. What kind of wife would find it hard to be loving to their partner?

That's the side-effect of living on empty. We find it harder and harder to show up as the person we want to be. And that just leaves us in a "bad" place (regret, guilt, comparison, obligation).

If you've been there, or are there now, I get you. I want to hold your hand and offer space to find clarity, a path to take back control, and the confidence to gift that to yourself. If that resonates with you, let’s make a time to connect.

This was a challenging time for me, but because of it, I began to cultivate and value the habits that would eventually become my core teaching principles.

Clarity and control lead us to living more confidently and making decisions, big and small, that make us and the people in our lives feel good.

My Slingshot Growth System has worked for me and my clients as a way to manage time, tackle to-dos, and make space for our needs. The ability to prioritize others is dependent on our ability to also prioritize our needs.