Two rights and a do-over

Good days. Bad days.

I’ve had them and I know you have too.

While the fact that they exist hasn’t changed, how they affect me has.

The semi-permanent lifestyle of 288 Days has gifted me with what I’ve shared as my “five-week filter”. It’s training me to be less wasteful with my thoughts, time, and energy.

Our first week back with the group after the holidays was challenging on us all. Back to schedules, early mornings, long days, new people and new environments.

But I’m finding a new way to handle the downs.

When things get tough, people get bristly, or I feel exhausted, I hit an immediate reset. I’ve swapped out the need to be right for my ultimate life goal of feeling right. And by right, I mean good - feeling good.

What used to take time to mull over in my head about what I might be doing or what someone else might be doing wrong, is fast-tracked towards a solution. And what I’ve found is that more often than not both parties feel right, which means there are only do-overs.

Starting fresh is the simplest way to acknowledge that sometimes every party feels right or hurt or unheard.

Give it a go this week. I know how difficult and unpleasant it can feel to pick up this habit. But it’s easier when you know what to let go of first. If you find hitting the pause button and restarting hard, try this:

😤 Remember, you’re not trying to convince yourself that you’re right and they’re wrong.

🐸 You’re leapfrogging passed that question to the bigger question: What’s the most important thing?

Very often the answer is being heard, loved, accepted. You don’t have to agree that you are at fault to accept that both you and someone else want the same thing.

🌈 Skip focusing on the details and see the big picture.

I very often find that when each party starts with, “I feel…”, we’re actually on the same side. And the conversation that’s possible from here is very different.

The power of the High Vibe Habits come from being able to manipulate our perspective to stay connected to what we want, not just what feels good in this moment.