Meaning

Time is precious. My goal is to treat is as such. That means using awareness to see where I might be squandering it. I have been (very) guilty of being a nervous person. Even if it was neatly hidden away within me, I spent countless hours, probably years, worrying about outcomes and meanings. 

I have since come to see an alternate path. It feels right in all the ways that dwelling in uncertainty felt so awful. Curious what I did? 

I did two things actually. First, I chose to only focus on my actions. After all, we are the only thing in the world that we can control. Once I do my best, I move on. No more second-guessing. No more ‘what-ifs’. 

The second thing I did was to adopt a policy of truth. I have worked hard to say only what I mean. That means having tough conversations sometimes. But mostly it means ease. I have always been someone who speaks from the heart and sees beauty within others. Now, I compliment with abandon. I say ‘yes’ when it aligns with what I want. I say ‘no thank you’ when I am not available physically or emotionally. 

I also now take others’ words at face-value. I do not read in between the lines. I don’t hang on to words wondering if I offended someone or if they intended to offend me. I think practicing this honesty and allowing others to do the same. It’s a game changer. 

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Looking to try it out? I found this TEDX Talk really enlightening.