Can’t win ‘em all
Or can you?
That depends heavily on:
How you define “win”
What you looking for from other people, and
Recognizing when you can stop waiting and give yourself what you need
I’ve shared a bit of how other people have positively encouraged me and my decision to embark on 288 Days (that’s the running title I’ll be using for my upcoming journey).
This week, I want to share the flip-side of that.
Such a big decision is bound to bring out some doubters. It’s been interesting to notice how I digest their comments. Here’s the invaluable piece that’s worth sharing:
The most difficult part of someone doubting you, is the icky effect it has when it has you doubting yourself.
Let’s be honest, when we make a big decisions they rarely come doubt-free. So when someone chooses to focus on:
what’s not happening
what you’re sacrificing
what could go wrong
It’s easy for that to change our focus to those ominous aspects too.
But what happens when you can protect that sacred connection you have with yourself?
Trust lets you focus on:
✨ Opportunity costs
That means, yes, you know that you are giving something up, but you also know that you are gaining more than you’re losing
✨ Your own potential
Confidence and growth come with living outside our comfort zone. It’s training for the life you want.
✨ Possibility
It’s a practice of staying open and staying on the lookout for the amazing things that will happen because you’re tuned into the frequency of little miracles (or even big ones!)
Life can only ever offer you the experience that you’re willing to see.
Trusting yourself to make good decisions isn’t about believing you’ll only make right decision. It’s an honest understanding that few decisions in life are as simple as “right” and “wrong”. Those, like most other words, are subjective and based on perspective.
When you reflect on any experience, you can find something to regret, something to avoid, and something to diminish yourself by.
Or….
You can learn to find value in all experiences not just the easy, perfect, and acceptable ones.
Ready to bravely forge ahead?!
Practice the win-learn perspective. Harvest something constructive from every decision. All learns are long-term wins.
Trusting yourself requires you to:
🔨 Reconnect to yourself: clearly hear your desires
🔨 Practice clarity of vision: intentional decisions mean making an honest assessment of your motivation. Are you doing something because it’s easy? more comfortable? more accepted? Or are you doing because you believe it’s the right choice for you?
🔨 Invest in genuine preparation: make success inevitable by preparing (mentally, physically, spiritually) for the road ahead. Trust requires practice and choosing win-learn again and again and again.
If you acknowledge upfront that you’ll make mistakes, have hard days, and maybe regret your decision, when you hit those points you’ll know you haven’t let yourself down. You’ll know that you’re just passing a few mile markers along the way. They aren’t reasons to stop. They’re signs to keep going.
Trust difficult for you?
Ask yourself - why would this be good for me?
It collapses the time between where you are and where you want to be.
It reduces regret.
It’s proof that you really are capable of creating the life you want.
I’ve been nervous on and off about 288 Days, but overall I can’t help but feel a sense of awe for this opportunity.
I said it last week - win, learn, or lose, it’s all a perspective. What will you choose to see?
