A million reasons
Why do a million reasons outweigh one?
Desire. It’s so straight forward and yet we’re so conditioned to believe that the seed of want isn’t necessarily worth nurturing.
And so we let things go, put things off, save them for a better time. But the funny thing about longing is that it rarely disappears. Sometimes we try to appease it by offering it something else. Sometimes we look on longingly at others and wish we could say yes.
Ever wonder why you say no? I got curious and found there are basically three reasons we say no. We lack the:
Courage
Doing new things, different things, can be scary because of the unknowns.
Resources
We feel like there’s not enough time, money, or energy to say yes.
Permission
Feeling like you’re not allowed to say yes is a common reason. It can be hard to convince ourselves that we can say yes. But it can take a lot of emotional energy to convince other people to support us, stick with us, and encourage us.
Here are three tactics I use to balance the scales and find my yes.
💪🏽 Be your biggest supporter.
Start with bolstering your courage and belief in yourself and your desire. The negative stuff loves to present itself boldly, but they aren’t the guaranteed outcome. Make a list of why this would be good for you. Why would this be good for other people in your life? You get to be the first person to fight for what you want. Close your eyes and feel in your body how good this yes would be for you.
🔎 Map it out.
Breaking things down to the actual numbers and details can be a game changer. Now that you know why it would be great, make a plan to make it happen. How much time do you actually need? Can you get creative about when it happens?
If the price tag feels hefty, where are you spending your money now and what might you be willing to shuffle around to reallocate funds? Look for all the ways you can find a way to generate what you need (you may not need it all at once). Share your goal with those who you know will support you and let them help you brainstorm or even just accept their energetic support.
❓ Ask: Whom do I feel like I need to get permission from?
The most important person you need to get permission from is yourself.
I’m always open to learning. I’d love to know if you have any alternate reasons. 288 Days has really cracked something open within me. It’s a yes life but also a practical one. I’m still living within budgetary and time restraints, but my husband and I are offering our children a life that we didn’t think was possible for us.
I’ve been guilty of that reflexive “we can’t do that” mentality. But 288 Days is proof that with planning, creativity, and determination you can make the impossible happen. I’m learning that we get to plan for a yes-life.
And that’s the biggest lesson. Saying ‘yes’ is less scary and uncomfortable when I learned that getting from no to yes isn’t magic or luck, it’s a path. I know success has a path. I know happiness has a path (that’s the High Vibe Habits I teach). I am learning that a life of yes also has a path. It’s something you can learn how to do, it’s a lifestyle you learn how to build.
I’m going to say it again, you’re closer than you think to the life you want.
Maybe you can’t give in or follow every desire, but you absolutely can learn how to say yes a little more. Change is possible. It takes practice. Train for the life you want. Practice what it takes to say yes. Just like saying no is built off of discipline, saying yes is also something we can learn how to do.
Is a yes-life something that excites you? Surrounding myself with other ‘yes’ energy has helped carry me through. I’d love to know if you might like to be part of a proactive community ready to explore what you want, think about how it can be possible, and learn how to get from no to yes.
If practicing ‘yes’ is something you’d be interested in being a part of, hit reply and drop me a quick note - or just a yes :)
