You want me to what?!

Get angry!

It was the best advice I’ve gotten lately. It’s not usually a productive place for me, but this week it worked like a charm. My coach reminded me that sometimes when things aren’t working out for us as entrepreneurs, it can be more useful to get angry instead of frustrated and down.

The full piece of advice was, “get angry, just don’t stay angry”. Her point was that it’s a place to begin, not a place to remain. Allowing myself a few minutes to just be irritated, to acknowledge that I’m putting in a ton of work and not seeing anything come of it, felt so good. It let me speak my truth.

And I needed to feel it deeply so I could let it go. I got mad, had a good short cry, and then felt lighter, better. Anger supported me, made me feel like I came to my own defense.

I wanted to pass this on because, just like she promised, it shifted my energy and within a few hours I found my mind excitedly buzzing with new ideas.

Stuckness has a way of making me feel like I’m carrying the weight of the world. It feels like a reminder of all the ways I’m not enough. So, if you’re ever in this spot, I’m giving you the green light to just get angry.

Just don’t stay angry.

This is not an exercise to blame anyone – the world or yourself. It’s an opportunity to put down your load for a minute. Fill yourself with fire so you can pick yourself up. Sometimes we want to feel like someone is fighting for us. And I love that this showed me a new way I can do that for myself. I still get to be my own hero.

And can I just say for all of you out there like me, who cry as a form of release, embrace that power. There’s nothing wrong with it even if people tell you otherwise. Cry. With someone, with yourself, for however long you need. When I don’t deny myself this, it’s usually brief and effective. When I hold it in, is when it’s problematic. We all have different ways of coping and I know personally that this version gets a bad rap. But I utilize it when I need it.